Highly
confident people believe in their ability to achieve. If you don’t
believe in yourself, why should anyone else put their faith in you? To
walk with swagger and improve your self-confidence, watch out for these
fifteen things highly confident people don’t do.
1. They don’t make excuses.
Highly confident people
take ownership of their thoughts and actions. They don’t blame the
traffic for being tardy at work; they were
late. They don’t excuse their short-comings with excuses like “I don’t have the time” or “I’m just not good enough”; they
make the time and they keep on improving until they
are good enough.
2. They don’t avoid doing the scary thing.
Highly
confident people don’t let fear dominate their lives. They know that
the things they are afraid of doing are often the very same things that
they
need to do in order to evolve into the person they are meant to be.
3. They don’t live in a bubble of comfort.
Highly
confident people avoid the comfort zone, because they know this is a
place where dreams die. They actively pursue a feeling of discomfort,
because they know stretching themselves is mandatory for their success.
4. They don’t put things off until next week.
Highly confident people know that a good plan executed
today is better than a great plan executed
someday.
They don’t wait for the “right time” or the “right circumstances”,
because they know these reactions are based on a fear of change. They
take action here, now, today – because that’s where progress happens.
5. They don’t obsess over the opinions of others.
Highly confident people don’t get caught up in negative feedback. While they
do care about the well-being of others and aim to make a positive impact in the world, they
don’t get
caught up in negative opinions that they can’t do anything about. They
know that their true friends will accept them as they are, and they
don’t concern themselves with the rest.
6. They don’t judge people.
Highly
confident people have no tolerance for unnecessary, self-inflicted
drama. They don’t feel the need to insult friends behind their backs,
participate in gossip about fellow co-workers or lash out at folks with
different opinions. They are so comfortable in who they are that they
feel no need to look down on other people.
7. They don’t let lack of resources stop them.
Highly
confident people can make use of whatever resources they have, no
matter how big or small. They know that all things are possible with
creativity and a refusal to quit. They don’t agonize over setbacks, but
rather focus on finding a solution.
8. They don’t make comparisons.
Highly
confident people know that they are not competing with any other
person. They compete with no other individual except the person they
were yesterday. They know that every person is living a story so unique
that drawing comparisons would be an absurd and simplistic exercise in
futility.
9. They don’t find joy in people-pleasing.
Highly
confident people have no interest in pleasing every person they meet.
They are aware that not all people get along, and that’s just how life
works. They focus on the quality of their relationships, instead of the
quantity of them.
10. They don’t need constant reassurance.
Highly
confident people aren’t in need of hand-holding. They know that life
isn’t fair and things won’t always go their way. While they can’t
control every event in their life, they focus on their power to react in
a positive way that moves them forward.
11. They don’t avoid life’s inconvenient truths.
Highly
confident people confront life’s issues at the root before the disease
can spread any farther. They know that problems left unaddressed have a
way of multiplying as the days, weeks and months go by. They would
rather have an uncomfortable conversation with their partner today than
sweep an inconvenient truth under the rug, putting trust at risk.
12. They don’t quit because of minor set-backs.
Highly
confident people get back up every time they fall down. They know that
failure is an unavoidable part of the growth process. They are like a
detective, searching for clues that reveal why this approach didn’t
work. After modifying their plan, they try again (
but better this time).
13. They don’t require anyone’s permission to act.
Highly confident people
take action without hesitation. Every day, they remind themselves, “If not me, who?”
14. They don’t limit themselves to a small toolbox.
Highly
confident people don’t limit themselves to Plan A. They make use of any
and all weapons that are at their disposal, relentlessly testing the
effectiveness of every approach, until they identify the strategies that
offer the most results for the least cost in time and effort.
15. They don’t blindly accept what they read on the Internet as “truth” without thinking about it.
Highly
confident people don’t accept articles on the Internet as truth just
because some author “said so”. They look at every how-to article from
the lens of their unique perspective. They maintain a healthy
skepticism, making use of any material that is relevant to their lives,
and forgetting about the rest. While articles like this are a fun and
interesting thought-exercise, highly confident people know that they are
the only person with the power to decide what “confidence” means.
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